2009年10月28日

又一波

是老了,也累了。凌晨時份聽到一隻從沒感想的老調,一直揮之不去。


靜靜聽著,愛人,我為妳唱一首愛歌。
當你明晨醒過來,再也尋不到我的蹤影,
你會知道我己離你遠去。

愛人,不要怨我。愛人,不要恨我。
我願想與你消磨一生,無奈生命如此短促。
當你閉上眼睛,笑聲永遠留在耳邊。
我雖遠離,愛情永遠留在心底。

愛人不要悲傷,愛人不要絕望,
珍惜我倆真摯的愛情,你我會在天涯相逢。

愛人不要悲傷,愛人不要絕望,
珍惜我倆真摯的愛情,你我會在天涯相逢。你我會在天涯相逢。

小習作

It has been decided to send a group of people to a recently discovered island where they will live an isolated existence for the next 50 years in order to create a new society.


The following 20 people have volunteered, but the ship can only take 12 people. Which 12 would you choose?

Shop steward in a factory
Shop assistant, aged 19
Doctor from Mainland China
Grandmother with arthritis
Retired senior politician
Women's rights activist
Refugee
Senior Police officer who is HIV positive
Peace campaigner
Barman
Member of the clergy
Pregnant schoolteacher
Unemployed teenage traveler
Filipino domestic helper
Carpenter
Gay nurse
Physics professor
Finance expert who is in a wheelchair
Seasonal farm labourer
Jazz musician

20中挑選12個,驟眼看似容易,原來有點手背係肉,左手又係肉一樣難以取捨。一聽到在荒島上建新社會,立即 Lost 上身,想著以一個人在社區的功能出發去選拔12位佳麗。不過,基於練習主題是 Equal Opportunity & Diversity, 選擇時又多了一層要認真考慮的方向。

不過難度最高的,是要一組4人 (共3組) 在發佈名單前取得共識。每人的心水,很明顯地有著差異,我可謂入錯組,當中只有一個同事跟我的取捨較接近。我以為 Barman 和 Domestic helper 一定無得留低卻被兩名熟女同聲反對;我要患有關節炎的 granny 同行又被她倆嫌棄,只有一位文靜的男同事撐我。

習作當然沒有所謂標準答案,不過人力資源部的總監提醒我們不要 stereotype 一個人。雖則如此,他也重申長者在社會的地位。他說除了後輩能學習他們的人生智慧之外,一個社會是應該要懂得怎樣去面對死亡。其實他說的很有道理,卻無意令我差點兒上不完那工作坊。

那天應是我慶祝結婚週年的日子,傷心的時光比高興的多。一個兒又能慶祝什麼。

2009年10月26日

Not even death do us part

婚姻誓詞聽過不少,大同小異,自己當主角那時也沒有用心記著一字一句,因為我從來都知道也相信用每一日的生活去履行比背誦一段文字更實在,也自負地認為我一定做得到。


無論是順境逆境貧富貴殘健康疾病,都永守在一起直至死亡將二人分開。那是說一方病倒了另一半要不離不棄扶持下去,還是一方病了不要藏起來要給機會讓另一方照料?

***

I promise to love you as you are, and not to try to change you. You are the person I want you to be, and the one with whom I want to be.

I eagerly anticipate getting to know the person you will become as we go through life together and fall in love a little more every day.

I promise to love you without reservation, and give you comfort when you need comfort, and space when you need space.

I vow to encourage you to achieve all of your goals, to hold you close as we laugh and as we cry, to grow with you in mind and spirit, to always be open and honest with you, and to cherish you through whatever life may bring us. Our future lies in the path we have chosen together.

I promise to work by your side to create a life that we can cherish, inspiring your love for me and mine for you, and to grow old by your side as your love and your best friend.

***

那是在網上找來的 vow,知易行難。

我只知道,for better or for worse, for richer and for poorer, in sickness and health, till death do us part 有點不準。

Not even death do us part.

2009年10月24日

...

在東 Touch 讓我找著如此有詩意的文字:


你好嗎?
很掛念。
親愛的秋天,
不熱,也不冷。剛剛好就好。
穿著單薄輕鬆地:早上,下午,晚上,也爽快。
十月出生的我,十分喜歡秋天。 (按:連九月出生的我也很愛秋天)
可是秋天往往悄悄的來,悄悄的離開。
秋天,太短暫了。
稍不留神,喔,原來你已來過,且走了。走得遠遠了。
不過,最好最好的,一向並不長久。
這陣子,日落後,
炎熱的感覺不同了,
換來,微涼的風,
透心涼那種,
好舒服好舒服,
舒服得可以將一整天的不爽,吹走,wind out ... (按:真的可以嗎?)
誰和誰說:
愛在深秋,
但,何時是深秋?
連秋天的確實時間都不舍何時,
或者深秋已經來臨,或者不;
而愛就在那裡,
捉不到的那裡。