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是心靈太脆弱, 動搖了自己一直的看法, 還是對萬物的接受程度廣闊了? 現在我竟然深切理解到為什麼會有未忘人去找另類力量跟另一方的他/她繼續生死相繫.

我不是盡然相信書中所說, 但當中的一段很值得深思. 我看的是中譯版, 原文如下:


I read of a man who stood to speak at the funeral of a friend.

He referred to the dates on her tombstone
From the beginning - to the end.
He noted that first came the date of her birth
And spoke of the following date with tears

But he said what mattered most of all
Was the dash between those years.

For the dash represents all the time
That she spent alive on earth …
And now only those who loved her
Know what that little line is worth.

For it matters not how much we own:
The cars . . . the house . . . the cash.
What matters is how we live and love
And how we spend our dash.

So think about this long and hard . . .
Are there things you’d like to change?
For you never know how much time is left,
(You could be at “dash mid-range.”)

If we could just slow down enough
To consider what’s true and real,
And always try to understand
The way other people feel.

And be less quick to anger,
And show appreciation more
And love the people in our lives
Like we never loved before.

If we treat each other with respect,
And more often wear a smile . . .
Remembering that this special dash
Might only last a little while.

So when your eulogy’s being read
With your life actions to rehash . . .
Would you be proud of the things they say

About how you spent your dash?


--- the Dash, Linda M Ellis (From Healing Grief by James van Praagh)

如果我相信有世界的另一端, 我很想讓他知道, 這兒還好, 不用掛心.